Reflect on your gains

It's human nature to only think about the gaps between where we are, and what we view as the 'idea' place to be in. This negativity can often overshadow the progress we are making on a daily/weekly/monthly/yearly basis. By reflecting on this progress consciously, we can focus on the gains we are making instead of gap we have left to close.
Focus on our progress rather than how far we have left to go
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High-performer syndrome

If you are an ambitious person, you have lofty goals. And if you have lofty goals, you are likely fixated on them. This is a good thing. It helps you succeed. The problem is that this is not so good for happiness. You will always have unachieved goals. This is the point of progress. You will never "make it", but instead be striving for something.
The key, as we've heard many times before, is to enjoy the journey. But that's hard to do if all you do is think about how far left you have to go to achieve something. What does make it more enjoyable, is to appreciate the progress we have made so far.

How to appreciate your gains

It is not difficult to zoom out and appreciate progress, it just takes effort. Like measuring any gain, you want to look at a period of time and compare it against a previous time period. You can reflect on any period of time, but I think the most useful ones are day, week, month and year. However, I should say that for work sessions and sprints, the exercise can be used for hours as well.

Make it consistent

The hard part is to be consistent about measuring. It's challenging because it's not a daily habit so much as periodic de-briefs. Here's an exercise on how to check in.

The exercise

Step 1 - Set reminders for check-ins with reflections

  1. Every evening/morning - what gains have you made in the past day?
  1. Every Friday - what gains have you made in the past week?
  1. Every 1st of the Month - what gains have you made in the past month?
  1. Every 1st of the Year - what gains have you made in the past year?

Step 2 - Reflection categories

For each of the time periods, reflect on the following categories:
  1. Career Development
    1. ex. Got a promotion, started earning more, more career happiness
  1. Personal Relationships
    1. ex. Milestone anniversary with partner, developed new friendships, spent more time with family, etc.
  1. Passions and interests
    1. ex. Learned a new sport, launched a new side project, etc.
  1. Physical and mental health
    1. ex. Reduced anxiety, more present in the moment, started eating better, exercised every day, etc.
The depth or your reflections should roughly match the time period you are reflecting on. A daily reflection may take only a few minutes, but a yearly reflection a few hours.
You can collect your reflections anywhere that feels right to you. However, whether you use a document or a notebook, it's recommended you keep all the reflections in one place so that you can look back later in life. You never know, perhaps you'll want a grand reflection someday towards the end.
For more information on the ideas behind this concept, read The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

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